Quick Divorce - Mediation

The process of mediation is quite different than arbitration. Mediation is an additional step on the way to trial that may result in an agreed settlement. Arbitration is a substitute for trial and is binding. State laws require court approval of all divorce orders and do not allow arbitration through divorce attorneys for property division, custody, or support.

A little planning goes a long way. The process of separation and divorce will change you legally, financially, and emotionally. You must be decisive in the face of turmoil. Take care of your self and children:

1. Eliminate domestic violence. Children are especially susceptible to abuse and carry emotional scars for the remainder of their lives. Major studies prove children experience fewer adverse consequences from divorce than enduring a two parent household with an abusive parent.
2. Take charge. Deal with first things first. Your marriage is over, and martial obligations are but a memory. You will pay taxes, balance the budget, doctor sick kids, and clean up after the kids go to bed. Life is full of problems, and you have only yourself to depend on. Accept it. The future is yours to create.
3. Talk to a divorce attorney. Know what the law requires and how it impact your future.
4. Emotional care is essential. Even the strongest and most determined experience difficulty terminating a marriage. Divorce causes turmoil and uncertainty. If you need emotional guidance, request professional assistance.
5. Nurture your children - They react strongly to divorce but may hide their feelings because of misplaced guilt. Small children especially tend to blame themselves, as if she isn't pretty enough, or he isn't smart enough to be loved. They will hide this from you, because they are afraid you will disappear.
6. Know when to file. Before the court receives your petition, choose a place to live, know how you will meet monthly bills and unexpected expenses, and decide when and how to explain your divorce to your family and friends.